Saturday, September 6, 2008
Friday, June 20, 2008
HOSPICE fundraiser today
Today is the fundraiser that I am doing for hospice....order today off my website if you can't make it to the sale in downtown Nashville. All orders off my site today will generate a 10% donation to Alive Hospice .
www.FauxSweets.com
Thanks,
Becca
www.FauxSweets.com
Thanks,
Becca
Thursday, June 19, 2008
(Update) PDS - Public Display of Stupidity
This post was from my old blog and was dated just about a year ago. With the twins about to turn two I thought I would reflect and see what has changed if anything....well other than the twins thinning out a bit none of the questions have gone away, in fact some new ones have popped up like, "Which one is the shy one?" "which one is the trouble maker?" I just answer all the new ones with, "Depends on the day!", that pretty much covers all the bases! So take a look at where I was a year ago......
It is a blessing to have twins right? RIGHT?
Well that depends on the day and I am NOT talking about the demands of mothering two infants! It is the general public that has been my obstacle. There are days when you go to make dinner and you realize you are out of milk, you know the days, and you need it to make pretty much anything in the pantry; so you think I will just run to the store Quickly and pick some up…stop there…QUICK is the important word. Nothing after twins is particularly quick, because entering the public eye with them is similar to being a celebrity on the red carpet. Let me walk you through what I mean when I say that the public is my obstacle in my 5 minute run to get milk!
For the last year and a half (starting the DAY I found out I was pregnant with twins) I have been the subject of many rude, time consuming, obnoxious, nosey, and mean spirited Questions, Comments and stares. I am not sure why but I always thought twins were really cool and so cute, but I NEVER would do any of the things I have been subject to…
Now I have pretty thick skin and am pretty patient with strangers and on lookers BUT I have been at the "Straw that broke the Camels Back" point and have felt like someone is going to get a vicious attack for just saying hi to the twins in the store. Of course if all they did was stop to say hi, I guess I wouldn't be where I am right now…It is NEVER just HI!
Do you know if you are having a boy or a girl?
Yes. Oh but they want specifics so after the "stare" they give me I say,” yes it is boy/girl twins”
Are they Identical?
Duh, no, they would have the same DNA if they were identical making them…say it with me…the same sex…hence IDENTICAL
Are you going to have them vaginally?
OK, I am not sure but the dairy isle at the grocery store is Not the APPROPRIATE place to ask about my vagina. WAIT there is NEVER a right place or time for a stranger to ask about my vagina. SO, my response in the beginning was I was not sure yet….as the months went on it evolved into WHAT? And finally, I do not feel comfortable talking with you about my Vagina, thanks!
WOW how are you going to breastfeed them?
See above, but insert breasts where you see vagina. Although we ARE in the dairy isle so maybe this one just popped into their head!
Did you take drugs?
Again too personal; I tell them no I just had A LOT of sex!!! I want to say,”yeah crack but I don't think that got me pregnant with twins!!” In case you are wondering while reading this No I did not take any fertility drugs.
Awe, poor thing, I hope you have lots of helpful family around!
UM, no but thanks for making me even more scared then I already am.
Better you than me!
I love this one, I just say "Yep"…they usually look puzzled and then get the point and walk away!
You look ready to go any minute?
I have 3 months left…it is twins…then go back to the first question and work your way back here!
OK that is just a small example of the questions and comments while pregnant, in addition to the time wasted when people walk up and touch the belly…makes me want to rub theirs back and see what type of reaction I get!
So lets move on to the heartwarming questions and comments directed at me when I am out with the twins on that seemingly easy milk run.
First the stares and commenting to their friends like I can't hear them; this doesn’t eat up any time it is just annoying. I use to be the type of person that would make nice eye contact with strangers and give the polite nod hello when passing by; now I stare at the ground and hope to GOD that no one talks to me and that I don't see them staring at my “Circus freak” children!
Then the usual:
ARE THEY TWINS?
YES, my least favorite question?
Do they run in your family?
Um, now they do!
What are their names?
Like it is any of their business and when I do tell them they always want to know why they don't rhyme.
Awe a perfect set a boy and a girl…now you don't need to have any other children!
Mind you my 6 year old daughter is standing there looking Unnecessary! I ALWAYS say and this is their AWESOME older sister!
How long did you carry them?
37 weeks, just plain nosey people.
Wow, I know what it is like to have twins….my kids are a year apart…
WHAT…then no you have no idea what it is like!
I am a twin I know how you feel…
Well actually NO, you know what they are going through…your mom knows what I am going through!
Wow you must be so busy?
Yes I am; so why the heck are you stopping me to ask me a million questions!
How come they don't look the same?
I usually say that they are just siblings...then they say, oh they aren't twins...and then I say yes they are but because they are not identical they are truly just siblings and would not look any more alike than any other brother and sister. I think I am just going to start saying they have different fathers!! hehehe
Which one is older?
This is priceless; Einstein they are the same age…they are twins. Oh yes I know what they mean but come on people does it really matter and is it really any of your business?
You've got your hands full?
Actually I use the stroller most of the time, hehehe…this one gets them every time….which might contribute to the dirty looks that I get!!!
Doesn't look like they ever push a meal away?
Followed by
Look at those fat babies?
And
Look at those FAT legs!
Um can I say "back at ya!" No because that would be rude but for some reason it is ok to say it to my children. This is sometimes said in humor and a cute tone but often times it is said with malice.
Ok I think you get the point and while most of these questions in an of themselves are not particularly bothersome or time consuming… they NEVER ask just one, they pretty much shoot questions at me until I make a get-a-way….just ask my dad (who often helps me shop) or my friend Jessica, who didn't really understand the issue until I took her to the mall with me and she was exhausted just from the stares and questions from the car to the Mall door!!!!
Now I would like to tell you the MOST hurtful and troubling comment that I have gotten, which really would make anyone stop going out in public. I was recently at a sporting event when a man looked me dead in the eye and said
"Why didn't you just put a gun in your mouth?"
WHAT, he was kidding right…nope…he was dead serious and then he called his wife over and said, "Honey come here and look at this, I told her Why didn't you just put a gun in your mouth" She looked at me and then proceeded to pick up Hannah and hold her up to their friend and said "look you have to come see this"
All I wanted to do was cry! What is wrong with people? Why do I get treated like this for just living my life…my children should be off limits…I use to be so open and maybe this is my punishment for having an open book approach to life in the past? So when I got home that is just what I did, I cried! Then I saw it through my tear filled eyes in the mirror “ME” I am the mother of Twins, I was graced with three beautiful children and two of them came to me in one small package. I saw my face, red and blotchy and my nose running and I thought find humor, give humor, and smile…it’s contagious. As I smiled back at myself I knew that my twins will grow up not to dread the public and the crazy attention but embrace it and learn, grow, teach, laugh and most of all smile! After all, if this is just the first year then we have many trips to pick up milk ahead of us, so they will have a lot of experience!
It is a blessing to have twins right? RIGHT?
Well that depends on the day and I am NOT talking about the demands of mothering two infants! It is the general public that has been my obstacle. There are days when you go to make dinner and you realize you are out of milk, you know the days, and you need it to make pretty much anything in the pantry; so you think I will just run to the store Quickly and pick some up…stop there…QUICK is the important word. Nothing after twins is particularly quick, because entering the public eye with them is similar to being a celebrity on the red carpet. Let me walk you through what I mean when I say that the public is my obstacle in my 5 minute run to get milk!
For the last year and a half (starting the DAY I found out I was pregnant with twins) I have been the subject of many rude, time consuming, obnoxious, nosey, and mean spirited Questions, Comments and stares. I am not sure why but I always thought twins were really cool and so cute, but I NEVER would do any of the things I have been subject to…
Now I have pretty thick skin and am pretty patient with strangers and on lookers BUT I have been at the "Straw that broke the Camels Back" point and have felt like someone is going to get a vicious attack for just saying hi to the twins in the store. Of course if all they did was stop to say hi, I guess I wouldn't be where I am right now…It is NEVER just HI!
Do you know if you are having a boy or a girl?
Yes. Oh but they want specifics so after the "stare" they give me I say,” yes it is boy/girl twins”
Are they Identical?
Duh, no, they would have the same DNA if they were identical making them…say it with me…the same sex…hence IDENTICAL
Are you going to have them vaginally?
OK, I am not sure but the dairy isle at the grocery store is Not the APPROPRIATE place to ask about my vagina. WAIT there is NEVER a right place or time for a stranger to ask about my vagina. SO, my response in the beginning was I was not sure yet….as the months went on it evolved into WHAT? And finally, I do not feel comfortable talking with you about my Vagina, thanks!
WOW how are you going to breastfeed them?
See above, but insert breasts where you see vagina. Although we ARE in the dairy isle so maybe this one just popped into their head!
Did you take drugs?
Again too personal; I tell them no I just had A LOT of sex!!! I want to say,”yeah crack but I don't think that got me pregnant with twins!!” In case you are wondering while reading this No I did not take any fertility drugs.
Awe, poor thing, I hope you have lots of helpful family around!
UM, no but thanks for making me even more scared then I already am.
Better you than me!
I love this one, I just say "Yep"…they usually look puzzled and then get the point and walk away!
You look ready to go any minute?
I have 3 months left…it is twins…then go back to the first question and work your way back here!
OK that is just a small example of the questions and comments while pregnant, in addition to the time wasted when people walk up and touch the belly…makes me want to rub theirs back and see what type of reaction I get!
So lets move on to the heartwarming questions and comments directed at me when I am out with the twins on that seemingly easy milk run.
First the stares and commenting to their friends like I can't hear them; this doesn’t eat up any time it is just annoying. I use to be the type of person that would make nice eye contact with strangers and give the polite nod hello when passing by; now I stare at the ground and hope to GOD that no one talks to me and that I don't see them staring at my “Circus freak” children!
Then the usual:
ARE THEY TWINS?
YES, my least favorite question?
Do they run in your family?
Um, now they do!
What are their names?
Like it is any of their business and when I do tell them they always want to know why they don't rhyme.
Awe a perfect set a boy and a girl…now you don't need to have any other children!
Mind you my 6 year old daughter is standing there looking Unnecessary! I ALWAYS say and this is their AWESOME older sister!
How long did you carry them?
37 weeks, just plain nosey people.
Wow, I know what it is like to have twins….my kids are a year apart…
WHAT…then no you have no idea what it is like!
I am a twin I know how you feel…
Well actually NO, you know what they are going through…your mom knows what I am going through!
Wow you must be so busy?
Yes I am; so why the heck are you stopping me to ask me a million questions!
How come they don't look the same?
I usually say that they are just siblings...then they say, oh they aren't twins...and then I say yes they are but because they are not identical they are truly just siblings and would not look any more alike than any other brother and sister. I think I am just going to start saying they have different fathers!! hehehe
Which one is older?
This is priceless; Einstein they are the same age…they are twins. Oh yes I know what they mean but come on people does it really matter and is it really any of your business?
You've got your hands full?
Actually I use the stroller most of the time, hehehe…this one gets them every time….which might contribute to the dirty looks that I get!!!
Doesn't look like they ever push a meal away?
Followed by
Look at those fat babies?
And
Look at those FAT legs!
Um can I say "back at ya!" No because that would be rude but for some reason it is ok to say it to my children. This is sometimes said in humor and a cute tone but often times it is said with malice.
Ok I think you get the point and while most of these questions in an of themselves are not particularly bothersome or time consuming… they NEVER ask just one, they pretty much shoot questions at me until I make a get-a-way….just ask my dad (who often helps me shop) or my friend Jessica, who didn't really understand the issue until I took her to the mall with me and she was exhausted just from the stares and questions from the car to the Mall door!!!!
Now I would like to tell you the MOST hurtful and troubling comment that I have gotten, which really would make anyone stop going out in public. I was recently at a sporting event when a man looked me dead in the eye and said
"Why didn't you just put a gun in your mouth?"
WHAT, he was kidding right…nope…he was dead serious and then he called his wife over and said, "Honey come here and look at this, I told her Why didn't you just put a gun in your mouth" She looked at me and then proceeded to pick up Hannah and hold her up to their friend and said "look you have to come see this"
All I wanted to do was cry! What is wrong with people? Why do I get treated like this for just living my life…my children should be off limits…I use to be so open and maybe this is my punishment for having an open book approach to life in the past? So when I got home that is just what I did, I cried! Then I saw it through my tear filled eyes in the mirror “ME” I am the mother of Twins, I was graced with three beautiful children and two of them came to me in one small package. I saw my face, red and blotchy and my nose running and I thought find humor, give humor, and smile…it’s contagious. As I smiled back at myself I knew that my twins will grow up not to dread the public and the crazy attention but embrace it and learn, grow, teach, laugh and most of all smile! After all, if this is just the first year then we have many trips to pick up milk ahead of us, so they will have a lot of experience!
Thursday, June 12, 2008
Fundraiser for Hospice!!!!!
My Sweet Treats will be available for purchase at this Alive Hospice event. 25% off all sales that day will go to Alive Hospice. Please come out and see all the crafters and support an amazing Non-profit Organization! Remember it is 25% of total sales not just a cut of the profit, so this is a great opportunity for Hospice to make a lot of money for a wonderful cause!
Proceeds will benefit Krugersdorp, South Africa's Hospice in the West. The sale will feature hand-crafted items provided by Alive Hospice staff, volunteers and others. Items sold at previous sales have included jewelry, original art, photography, greeting cards, seasonal items and much more.
As sister hospices, Alive Hospice and Hospice in the West maintain a dialogue about hospice care and program development, a collaboration that enables both organizations to grow and further develop the services they provide. In addition, Alive Hospice has provided financial support to Hospice in the West through fund-raising events. The two hospices' partnership began in 2002 through their involvement in the Foundation for Hospices in Sub-Saharan Africa.
Alive Hospice will hold the craft sale on Friday, June 20, from 9 a.m. to 4 p.m. at the agency's Administration Building, 1718 Patterson St., near downtown Nashville. The sale is open to the public.
Proceeds will benefit Krugersdorp, South Africa's Hospice in the West. The sale will feature hand-crafted items provided by Alive Hospice staff, volunteers and others. Items sold at previous sales have included jewelry, original art, photography, greeting cards, seasonal items and much more.
As sister hospices, Alive Hospice and Hospice in the West maintain a dialogue about hospice care and program development, a collaboration that enables both organizations to grow and further develop the services they provide. In addition, Alive Hospice has provided financial support to Hospice in the West through fund-raising events. The two hospices' partnership began in 2002 through their involvement in the Foundation for Hospices in Sub-Saharan Africa.
Alive Hospice will hold the craft sale on Friday, June 20, from 9 a.m. to 4 p.m. at the agency's Administration Building, 1718 Patterson St., near downtown Nashville. The sale is open to the public.
Wednesday, May 28, 2008
Sunday, May 18, 2008
My New BIZ!!!!! Diaper Cakes and more Faux Sweets....
Visit my new site at http://www.fauxsweets.com/
They are fabulous and you are going to be a hero to whom ever you send them to!!!!
More to come...
Becca
They are fabulous and you are going to be a hero to whom ever you send them to!!!!
More to come...
Becca
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